Our Sovereign Couples’ Retreat Agenda

“Being partners in life means not only sharing love and laughter but also facing obstacles and challenges together with courage and determination.” 

I like to call this concept “Sovereign Partnerships,” where both individuals have the freedom to be clear, honest, and true to their ever-changing selves. It’s about falling in love with the journey of growth while knowing that your love for each other remains solid and supreme.

In a Sovereign Partnership, communication is key. It allows both partners to express their needs, wants, and dreams while fostering an environment of mutual respect and understanding. 

As each person evolves, it’s essential to continually reassess boundaries, support systems, and shared goals to ensure the partnership remains strong and fulfilling. 

Embark on a weekend escape designed exclusively for the two of you. Immerse yourselves in an experience crafted to nourish your bond and strengthen your connection. 

The retreat agenda combines activities focusing on self-care, quality time, and revitalizing experiences to create a truly memorable getaway.

Be sure also to check out my 5 Tips for a Successful Couples Retreat to read part one.

 

Retreat Agenda  

Saturday  

12:30-1:30 Lunch – What out of life

2022 Planning Session 

1:45-3:00 Start Questionnaire 

3:00-4:00 Hotel Check-In 

4:00-5:00  Keep answering questions and goal setting

6:00-:7:00 How to get it 

7:00-8:00 Happy Hour 

8:00-10:00 Dinner 

Sunday  

8:30-9:00 Breakfast Grab and Go 

9:00-11:00 “Why” Hike (Here, we discussed our life “Why” and our intent around these retreats while exploring the beautiful nature around us.)

12:00 Check-Out 

1:00-3:00 Lunch – What we have….What we need – 2023, 2024, 2025

3:00-4:00 School, Sports & Extracurricular

4:00-5:00 Time block Vacation for 2023 & FInalize goals

6:00 Pick up the Kids

 

Q+A

 

What do you want out of life?

 

1: SPIRITUAL

  • What are our priorities for our spiritual life?
  • What steps do we want to take to improve our spiritual life?
  • What are our priorities for our children’s spiritual life?
  • What should we tell our children about God?
  • What spiritual rituals do we want to introduce into our family?
  • What are our daily gratitude and other spiritual habits?

 

2: PHYSICAL

  • How can we improve our eating habits?
  • What can we do to incorporate exercise into our family activities?
  • Which athletic or physical activities should our children be involved in?
  • Do we need to lose/gain weight?
  • What should I do to make myself more attractive to my spouse?
  • Are there any athletic goals I want to pursue (e.g. run a mile–or a marathon)?
  • What can I do to encourage or enable my spouse to meet his/her physical goals?

 

 3: PERSONAL

  • Are there any skills or sports I want to learn (i.e. play the piano, take up golf or speak French)?
  • Are there creative endeavors we want to undertake as a family?
  • Do each of us get enough time to work on ourselves? 
  • Do we each have enough “me time” to decompress and destress?

 

4: KEY RELATIONSHIP

 

  1. Marriage
  • Is our marriage headed in the right direction?
  • Are we growing closer and is the relationship maturing?
  • Are we meeting each other’s emotional needs?
  • Are we meeting each other’s physical needs?
  • Are we meeting each other’s intellectual needs?
  • What kinds of things can we do to ongoing support each other?
  • What do you NEED from me this year?
  • What can we do to improve our sex life?
  • Should we go out more often, or make more time for romance?
  • What do we want our marriage to look like five years from now?
  • What do I see as my partner’s primary responsibili- ties in the marriage relationship?
  • What do I see as my primary responsibilities in the marriage relationship?
  • Does our devotion to our children interfere with or hamper our marriage relationship?
  • Do we support one another in front of our children?
  • What traditions do we want to introduce to our family this year?

 

  1. Children (We have young children, 10 and under at this time.)
  • What are the most important character traits we want to see our children develop?
  • How should we spend weekends and other leisure time?

 

  1. Extended Family
  • What are our relationships with our extended family?
  • Do we need to think about helping aging parents?

 

  1. Friendships
  • Are there any specific people we would like to get to know better this year?
  • How do we want to deepen and enrich our current friendships?
  • How can we more clearly communicate with each other?

 

5: FINANCIAL

We decided we would have a separate retreat for this in 60 days, but we did answer these questions:

  • What is our 5-year net worth goal? 
  • What are our retirement goals?
  • What will steps do we need to take to move closer to those goals this year?
  • What does our charitable giving look like? 
  • Which organizations would we like to target in the coming year?
  • What are our savings goals?
  • How much did we save last year?  Was it adequate? 
  • What would we like to save for this year? 
  • How often should we set money aside, and where should we put it?

 

FINAL QUESTIONS

  • What are the key habits we want to develop this year as a family and as individuals?
  • Where do we want to vacation this year? Time block calendar for all vacations.
  • How are our businesses doing financially?
  • What are the ultimate goals for the businesses?

One of my favorite books is The One Thing by Jay Papasan. He and his wife created a Couples Goals Retreat workbook that I was inspired by and used as a guide in creating our questions.  Please check out their full guide for a complete list of questions that has more sections that could be relevant to your relationship.

Click the link for the download KH Couples Retreat Agenda branded.